Casen's Story: A plea for kindness and understanding

OBERLIN Kan.- In the quiet community of Oberlin, a profound sadness has settled as family and friends grapple with the devastating loss of 11-year-old Casen Keith-Tomas Kiehn. Casen, born on Dec. 14, 2012, to Andrew and Malenda Kiehn, passed away on November 25, 2024, a victim of the silent struggles that plague too many young lives.

Casen was a vibrant soul, a beacon of joy in the lives of those who knew him. He attended Oberlin Elementary School and Christian Academy and was remembered as a spirited trendsetter. His passions were as diverse as his colorful, often mismatched outfits, which reflected his unapologetic individuality. He loved the thrill of adventure, whether riding his bike, playing football, kayaking, or dove hunting alongside his father. "He was sweet! He cared for everyone and everything," his mother, Malenda, shared, her voice heavy with disbelief. "I can’t believe this."

Beneath Casen's cheerful exterior, however, lay a hidden battle. Tragically, he took his own life, a stark and heartbreaking reminder of the immense pressures children face today. This devastating loss has ignited a community conversation about mental health and the urgent need for greater awareness.

Malenda Kiehn's grief is palpable, her words a raw testament to a mother's pain. "I will never be okay! Our family is not ever going to be okay again!" she wrote in a poignant social media post, capturing the enduring ache of losing a child. Her focus now is on supporting her other children, Damien and ShyAnn, who are also navigating this profound loss.

To honor Casen's unique spirit, Malenda made a special request for his funeral: attendees were asked to wear bright colors or pajamas, reflecting Casen's love for vibrant expression rather than traditional mourning attire. This celebration of his individuality was a powerful reminder of the light he brought into the world.

Casen's story is a stark illustration of a troubling trend. Research indicates a steady rise in youth suicide rates, with many children not receiving the critical support they need. In her article published by Psychology Today, Marilyn A. Mendoza, Ph.D., emphasizes that society must confront this alarming reality. "We need to acknowledge that this is happening and find ways to help these children before it's too late."

Malenda's message is a direct call to action: "Please be kind! Spread kindness! Talk kindly!" She implores others to recognize the profound impact of words and actions on vulnerable children. Her plea underscores the urgent need for communities to cultivate environments of empathy and understanding.

The Kiehn family’s tragedy serves as a powerful catalyst for change, urging a deeper understanding of youth mental health and the devastating consequences of bullying. No child should ever feel alone in their struggles. By sharing Casen's story, the family hopes to inspire a collective effort to build a kinder, more supportive world for our youth.